When it comes to the difference between adults and children, sometimes it’s hard to tell who is right. It seems like no matter how many times we see a child misbehave or get into trouble, they still don’t seem to learn their lesson. Parents often have a tough time disciplining their kids because they are not sure what will work best for them–they may even feel guilty making their kids do anything at all! We’ll be exploring the differences in behavior and personality traits of adults and children as well as some strategies that can help make your life easier if you’re parenting on your own. The first thing parents need to understand is that there is no such thing as a perfect child. They won’t always behave the way you want them to, and they will get into trouble at some point in their lives–so no matter how frustrated or upset we may feel with our kids when this happens, it’s important that as parents we don’t let these emotions dictate how we react to them.
It can also be difficult for a parent who is disciplining their children on their own because there are times where it seems like nothing works! This is why I have created an eBook entitled “Wisdom of the Ages: A Parenting Guide” which includes strategies from experts around the world about what does work and doesn’t work when parenting your child(ren).
When exploring different ways to discipline your kids, think
about what is the goal of your discipline. Is it to get them to behave a certain way? Or, does it have something else in mind such as teaching them empathy or responsibility? When disciplining children that are old enough for consequences, like when they misbehave and need some time out from an activity, create a list of “consequences” ahead of time so you can choose one depending on their age–for example if they’re under four years old then you might want to give them more attention while five and up could be no TV with dinner for 30 minutes. This will help make sure there’s consistency rather than just ad hoc decisions which may lead to disappointment because their parents don’t follow through consistently.
Always try to make discipline a teaching moment for your child. Ask them what they can remember from the last time and how it made them feel, or ask about their feelings on the situation in general. This way you’re not just lecturing at them but giving them an opportunity to process through this event with you as well.
Punishment is necessary when children are out of control and/or dangerous–using physical force, breaking things deliberately, aggressive behavior towards others (including pets). It’s important that we teach our kids early on that there are consequences for these actions so they learn appropriate behaviors without becoming traumatized by violence or abuse which will cause more problems down the road.
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Discipline needs to be consistent and should happen immediately following the incident. The best way is for parents, or another trusted adult, to step in before things get out of hand so you can talk about what happened calmly without anger. It’s important that they know how their actions affected others because this creates empathy which helps them develop a conscience. And when kids have a strong sense of morality from an early age it will help them make better decisions as life goes on.
- “When children are forced to face consequences at home whenever there was misbehavior, then we would not need government agencies going around enforcing laws against child abuse” – Thomas Sowell
- In the end, it is important for parents to teach their children that some things are wrong and will not be tolerated. But there should also be room to understand the circumstances when these punishments have been enacted so they can avoid repeating them in the future.”
- In order to raise a child with good behavior we need three components: empathy, morals and consequences
- Empathy helps kids develop conscience – Thomas Sowell
- “When children are forced to face consequences at home whenever there was misbehavior, then we would not need government agencies going around enforcing laws against child abuse” – Thomas Sowell
- “When children are forced to face consequences at home whenever there was misbehavior, then we would not need government agencies going around enforcing laws against child abuse.” -Thomas Sowell
Children should be taught that some things are wrong and will never be tolerated. But they also deserve a chance to understand when these punishments have been enacted so they can avoid repeating them in the future.” – Thomas Sowell We cannot use force on kids any more because of our current social climate; it is no longer acceptable or reasonable- Thomas Sowell. Children’s rights movement (1970s) emphasized what children want/need rather than how parents think best for their child.
